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New to the Lifestyle?

New to the Lifestyle?

 Is it normal to be jealous the first time you swing? 
 Jealousy is a natural feeling. That is why we preach communication. If you stay open with each other and make sure you are on the same page the entire way you'll avoid a lot of issues. 

 What kind of people are swingers? 
 From Doctors to lawyers, nurses to teachers and everyone in between. You'll see people from all different walks of life, different races, heights and weights. With such a diverse group there really are people out there for everyone! 

Are there different ways to swing? 

Of course! This is being referred to more and more as the lifestyle for a reason. It can be as mild as watching others or being watched, to soft (oral) swapping, to full blown partner swapping. Its your call! Always go at your own flow and take as much (or as little) time as you need. With so many ways to explore, enjoy yourselves and take it all in! 
Why is it so hard to find a single female to join us? 
They're called Unicorns for a reason! There just aren't many single females in the lifestyle. Most females that are in the lifestyle are half of a couple and since demand is so high for the singles there's simply not enough of these lovely ladies to go around.  

Is swinging just for couples? 
Swinging is a lifestyle open to couples and singles a like. There is a reason why we say the more the merrier! Most parties are geared towards couples and single females, however there are certain nights at clubs and certain parties that welcome single men.  

 How do we meet others who are interested in the lifestyle? 
 There are many different ways to meet other people in this lifestyle! You can join websites and scroll through dates, send out messages or video chat with others. You can go to clubs and meet up there for the night. There are meet and greets, specifically designed for you to get out and mingle! Try one, or try them all! 

So, how do we get started? 
 That depends on you! If you want to jump right in, check out some swing clubs or a hotel takeover. If you want to just dip a toe in the pool to see what its like, hit up a meet and greet to see what everyone is about. This will give you a chance to meet people without feeling any pressure to participate. If you want a little one on one time, try posting on a few websites and invite someone over for some fun!  

Aren't Diseases a problem?  The nice thing about the lifestyle is that it polices itself. As long as you are open and honest about your own status and have fun safely you'll find most others will do the same. Those who do not will end up segregated. 

Lifestyle Lingo

Lifestyle Lingo

BBC : Big Black Cock

BBW : Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are.


BDSM : A combination of three terms: BD (Bondage & Discipline), DS (Dominance & Submission), and SM (Sadism & Masochism). A wide range of sexual activities having to do with power.


BI-COMFORTABLE : A Male or Female who is open to bi-sexual activities within swinging, but does not consider themselves bi-sexual or attracted to the same sex


BI-CURIOUS : A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.


BONDAGE: A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."


BYOB : Used to indicate that visitors must supply their own alcohol, common practice at clubs where local ordinances may prevent the sale of alcohol. However, they will usually provide "mixers" (i.e. sodas, juices, ice)


CAN ENTERTAIN / CAN HOST : willing to invite others to their home for swinging.


CAN TRAVEL /WILL TRAVEL : willing to travel to your home to swing.


CANING : A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.


CLEAN : Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.


CUCKOLD : husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.


D/D FREE : Drug/Disease Free, meaning that a couple/person is STD free and does not use drugs.


HALL PASS : 1. A permission given to one married partner by the other to independently find and engage in sexual play. 2. A permission to play away from home without the presence of the other married partner.


DISCIPLINE : A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.


DISCREET OR DISCRETION : Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.


DOMINANT : A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.


EXHIBITIONIST : Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched. 


FETISH : Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.


FFM or FMF : Threesome involving two women and one man  FFM refers to a threesome that is female-centric, where the women play with each other. FMF refers to a threesome where the women only play with the man.


FULL SWAP : Two couples exchanging partners for sexual intercourse


GIRL-GIRL : The girls will play while the guys watch.


GROUP ROOM : Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads.


GROUP SEX : Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.


HARD CORE :A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.


HWP : Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.


IR : Interracial


MASTER/SLAVE : Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. 


MEET & GREET (M&G) : A swinger event, usually held in a public place, for the purpose of meeting other swingers.


MFM or MMF : Threesome involving two men and one woman, however different types of threesomes. MFM refers to two straight males and a female, while


MMF refers to two bi-males and a female.


NSA : No Strings Attached. Sex without any expectations beyond that encounter.


OFF-PREMISE : No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.


ON-PREMISE  : A club where sexual play is allowed. Private and Public rooms are usually provided for play.


OPEN RELATIONSHIP : A relationship in which participants are free to take other partners; may or may not be a polyamorous couple; may or may not be a swinging couple. If the couple is married they may describe themselves as having an open marriage.


ORGY : Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.


POLYAMORY : A love relationship involving more than 2 people.


SAME ROOM : Refers to playing together in the same room. May include soft swinging or full-swap.

SAME ROOM SWAP : Refers to swapping partners in the same room. 


SEPARATE ROOM : Couples will split up and go into separate rooms to swap partners.


S&M or S/M : Sadism and Masochism


SOFT SWAP : The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse.


SUBMISSIVE : Passive, wishes to be dominated


SWAPPING : Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity. 


SWINGING : An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.


UNICORN : the term Unicorns represent a single female, bisexual or straight. Who is willing to have sex with a couple. To some, that seems mythical. Hence, the name/title.


VANILLA : Typically refers to non-swingers (i.e. "vanilla friends")


VOYEURISM : Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.

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